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Pastors' Wives Resource site provided by the Sunday School Discipleship Ministries International, a ministry of the Church of the Nazarene. We want to hear about your experiences, the lessons you’ve learned and how God’s Word and prayer supported and sustained you in the joys and challenges of parsonage life.

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But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be My witnesses ... Act 1:8

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Called by Marriage? Called by God? PDF Print E-mail
Written by Dr. Patty Hambrick   
I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart! And the peace I give isn't fragile like the peace the world gives. So don't be troubled or afraid ( John 14:27 TLB).

Sometimes with my husband, Ted, sometimes without, I have counseled a couple in a broken marriage, encouraged a student not to drop out of school, attended numerous committee meetings, taught Sunday school, worked in the nursery, supervised and organized “Children’s Day”, took my turn cleaning the church, visited the sick, counseled a pregnant young woman considering an abortion, comforted two mothers who lost custody of their children, sang in the choir, worship team and helped with children’s music, confronted a drug-using mother, counseled two families with children in jail, talked to my family about my father’s failing health, worked my full-time job, etc.  This is life as a ministry wife.

Sure, I get tired.  Life is rewarding but it is hard.  Demands on my time and commitment to what I must do and would like to do are difficult.  But I have made a decision that blesses my soul. I believe I am “Called by God and Called by Marriage.”

The Measure of a Man PDF Print E-mail
Written by Gaby   
A few weeks ago we had a very hard week. It began with the passing of a beautiful 15-year old girl from our church. She had been battling bone cancer for a couple of years and went to be with Jesus last Sunday. Matt had been spending considerable amount of time with the family prior to her passing, to be a source of comfort, strength, prayer, wisdom, and whatever else a family in such a situation needs. He was there when our little friend took her last breath, and he accompanied the family through planning the funeral, choosing the casket, and making sure all the arrangements were made.

On Tuesday he spent the afternoon and evening with them at the viewing, and on Wednesday he performed part of her funeral, held at our church, before a crowd of about six hundred people. When he got into the car after the funeral was over, he broke down in exhaustion and grief. We made our way to the graveside service, accompanied the family home for a few more minutes and left. Matt has been in full-time ministry for eight years now. This sweet teenager was the first member a congregation he pastored to die.

The next day he stayed home to rest after what had been four grueling days. Late that night he received a call from a dear friend and congregation member stating that her husband had a heart attack and was recovering in CICU. Off he went to the hospital to pray with them and be their pastor. The next morning he got up early to take me to the doctor, for I had not been feeling well for a few days. The diagnosis: pneumonia. Since I was bed-ridden and very sick he had been taking care of the children and me, visiting the hospital, going to be instructed on how to take care of two different households full of cats that we would watch over the weekend while their owners were away, and trying to squeeze the necessary work that is required to hold a Sunday morning service, including preaching and leading worship.

Last night I walked into the living room feverish and miserable, and I found him listening to a broadcast of his beloved football team playing and folding laundry. Later on he got up in the middle of the night to hand me medicine and rub my back. Sunday he will stand in front of his congregation and deliver a sermon he has carefully researched and prepared and nobody but I will notice the stress marks around his mouth or the few extra gray hairs he developed this week.

And I simply watched and marveled. Because I married the man I have a certain bias, this I know. Sometimes it is a positive bias that sees the things he does as wonderful and sometimes I can be his worst critic because I know what he is capable of accomplishing. But this week I saw a side of him I had not had the privilege to experience before. This is not a tribute to a husband or a man; this is a tribute to my pastor. I knew just how broken he was about L’s death, how much he agonized to find the right words to say that would paint the picture of the wonderful human being that she was, and how much he prayed for her family as they dealt with her loss. I saw him hop to his feet, weary as he was, and jump in his car to get to the hospital when his friend needed him by his side in the CICU. I’ve witnessed him feeding, bathing, playing and reading to our kids at the end of the last few long days, then come to our room to make sure I had water, a blanket, or a kiss. And come Sunday, I will sit in the front row as he brings us words from God to encourage us and challenge us.

You may know lots of pastors who do this on a regular basis. This is what the good ones do. I just happened to have a front row seat this week into the world of one and a pair of eyes willing to pay attention. I thought about the old cliché: “what is the measure of a man?” Matt loves his congregation deeply, his family tenderly, and his God passionately. And because he loves them, he serves them unconditionally. I thought about the words of Jesus in Matthew 20:19 when he states that “whoever wants to be great among you must be a servant.” Matt serves. His understanding of Christ is that of a loving God who takes care of his people and that is the image of God he strives to portray every day of his life. What the measure of a man is can be debated. But the measure of my pastor is love.
Menopause and the Ministry PDF Print E-mail
Written by O.E. Dement, MD.   

When life is in balance and you feel great, things around you usually appear rosy and straight forward. If, however, you have lost your energy, you are stressed to the max, your life is pulled in multiple directions, your sex life is non existent, your sleep is restless and tormented with hot flashes, and you have difficulty making even simple decisions that previously came easily, you might be experiencing perimenopause or even true menopause. Some or most of these symptoms are experienced by the majority of women between 45 and 55 years of age. Approximately 50 per cent of women go through these phases of life with mild to moderate effect on their daily life. Another 25 per cent will have only minor symptoms and about 25 per cent will have symptoms that greatly interrupt their life and sometimes the life of those around them.


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