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Pastors' Wives Retreat

Pastors' Wives Resource site provided by the Sunday School Discipleship Ministries International, a ministry of the Church of the Nazarene. We want to hear about your experiences, the lessons you’ve learned and how God’s Word and prayer supported and sustained you in the joys and challenges of parsonage life.

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Proclaim the power of God, whose majesty is over Israel, whose power is in the skies. You are awesome, O God, in Your sanctuary; the God of Israel gives power and strength to His people. Praise be to God! Ps 68:35

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The Year Christmas Arrived Early PDF Print E-mail
Written by Pam Enderby   
I tumbled out of bed and began preparing a mental "to do" list. I'll write my Christmas letter, bake cookies, and begin shopping. I'm going to buy the "perfect gifts" this year—gifts that won't get stashed in drawers, soon to be forgotten or returned to the mall the day after Christmas.
The harder I shopped, the grumpier I grew. After hours of combing through racks of sweaters, jeans and shirts at my daughter's favorite clothing stores, I headed for home with a pounding headache.


I met my pastor husband reclining in his favorite leather chair, absorbed in the newspaper. "I wish I could relax," I grumbled under my breath. Then my fourteen-year-old appeared, chatting on the phone. Immediately, my temper flared. "Bonnie, get OFF the phone and do your homework." I headed for my bedroom, complaining to my husband about having to take care of everyone and everything!
Slumped in my rocking chair, I asked God to help me cope. As always, He was waiting for me.
During the holiday season my spiritual life had dwindled to glimpses of Scripture and perfunctory prayers. I ignored the most important aspect of Christmas: carving out time to bask in the beauty of my precious Savior.
"You don't have to write a Christmas letter," He whispered.

"Yes I do!" I protested. I couldn't disappoint my friends and family. My Christmas letter, for some, had become my only source of communication throughout the year.
"I feel like a failure," I cried. I believed the lie that I had to be all things and do all things for all people in order to make it a perfect holiday.
For a long time, I sat in silence. Then, I heard the way of peace and rest. "Do not be afraid; I have called you by your name, you are mine. You are precious in my eyes...and I love you... my love for you will never leave you and my covenant of peace with you will never be shaken" (Isaiah 43:1,4; 54:10 NAS).
God's enduring love affirmed and comforted me. Whether or not my performance pleases others, God promised that His love for me never changes. While basking in His unconditional love, I felt I could lower my lofty standards. Guilt free, I let go of writing my Christmas letter, and instead simply signed our names in Christmas cards. I also resolved to bake less and shop less.
The Master gift-giver then challenged me. "Call John and apologize for losing your temper." His gentleness melted my pride; I acquiesced.
Asking God to forgive me and offering an apology to John melted my resentments and kindled sweet communication.
With two weeks before Christmas, my spirit was fully revived and refreshed with God's love, the greatest of all gifts. It empowered me to be understanding, and offer compassion and kindness. Those gifts will never wear out or become unfashionable. It was our best Christmas ever.

Pam Enderby is a pastor’s wife living in Kansas City. She is the office manage for Come to the Fire.

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